Tarot Talk: How to Ask Good Questions in a Tarot Reading

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So you’ve found the a reader who is a good fit for you.  Awesome!  Now how do you figure out what question you want to ask when you’re getting a reading?  Choosing the right question can be difficult.  So how do you figure out what to ask, and once you’ve decided on that how do you phrase the question?

First of all I’m going to spout that old adage that there are no stupid questions.  However, there are some kinds of questions that will get you more useful answers than others.  Some Tarot readers are happy to  work with yes/no questions and there are definitely spreads that offer to answer them, but I find that I get a much richer and more useful reading when I’ve crafted a more nuanced question.  For example: “Will I get a new job?”  The answer to that is pretty simple, yes or no.  Probably not the answer you were really hoping for.  It doesn’t give you any agency in your own future.  I’m sidelining the fact that I don’t read predictively so I don’t know that I could confidently predict something like that.

A better way to ask that question might be “What do I need to do to attract a new job?”  This puts the power back in your hands instead of just wishing out into the universe.  It’s always my goal for one of my tarot readings to empower you.  I want to give you the tools to achieve your goals.  Another way to ask that new job type question would be: “What things do I need to learn to improve my chances of finding the right job for me?”  Just like before, asking this question puts you in the driver’s seat.  It gives you homework to do as you search for employment.

Another thing to keep in mind is that the more open your question is, the more information you’ll be able to get back.  This is not to say you shouldn’t ask specific questions, but consider how you’re phrasing them.  Instead of asking “Will I find love?” you’d probably get more use out of the answer to “What energies do I need to cultivate in myself and my life to help me find my ideal mate?”  Or maybe “What issues do I still need to work through before I’m ready for a new relationship?”

If you’re working with a reader who is a good match for you they should be able to help craft the right kind of questions to ask so you can get the best information in your reading.  Feel free to ask them if you’re unsure about what to ask.  Another option if you’re planning on getting a reading is to ask for a sort of general check in.  Maybe you aren’t having a specific issue at the moment but just want some general insight into where your life is heading.  Those kinds of questions are absolutely okay to ask.  I wouldn’t want you to think that you shouldn’t ask for a reading if you don’t have a laser focused question.  I just want to ensure that if you do need something really specific that you’re asking the best possible question to get you your best possible answer.

And if you’d like to book a reading with me, feel free, I’d be honored to read for you.  head on over to my readings request page.

Tarot Talk: How to find the Right Tarot Reader for You

tarot-talkSo you’ve decided that you want to get a Tarot reading.  Awesome!  I admit that I’m a little bit biased, but I think Tarot can be a fantastic tool for helping to understand those difficult situations life can sometimes throw at us.  A good Tarot reading can be an empowering tool that helps you figure out what’s going on in your life and how to handle it when you’re feeling like you’re barely treading water.

But how do you find a good Tarot reader?  And how do you find the right reader for you?  Every reader has a different style and reads in a slightly different way.  Choosing the right reader is just as important as asking the right questions.  So where do you even start?

Start by visiting their website and doing a little bit of background reading.  OneIMG_0877 thing that I like to look for is a code of ethics (it could be called a statement of values or something along those lines).  Reading through that page can tell you a lot about a reader.  I always look for explicit LGBT inclusive language.  A note here to any other straight readers, if you’re welcoming to queer clients state that outright.  Inclusivity is not the default, so if you don’t say that you’re welcoming or say that you try to operate as a safe space we won’t know. If you want to be inclusive and supportive of queer folks (and other marginalized groups) then you need to say it.  And your actions need to reflect it, but that’s a whole other post.

Another thing that I look for in a reader is how they describe their style.  If you’re looking for a predictive Christian centered reading, I’m not the reader for you.  If you’re looking for a witchy intuitive reading, that’s more my bag and I might be a good match for you.  You want to feel comfortable with your reader.  If you feel weirded out or nervous you won’t get a good reading from them because the energy flow won’t be there.  The more engaged you can be in your reading the better it will be for you.

Another way to find a good reader is recommendations from people that you trust.  Bear in mind that what works for one person might not work for you, but positive reviews and recommendations are huge.

My last piece of advice on finding the right reader for you is to trust your gut.  If you’re corresponding with them and you get a feeling that something is ‘off’ trust that feeling.  If the reader is trying to up-sell you a bunch of other things (like spells and charms That You Must Have!!!) step away.  A good and ethical tarot reader won’t try to convince you that you need them or else, they’ll let the right clients find them.  Now, I’m not saying that if the reader you’re looking for advertises their services that they’re bad, that’s not at all the case.  What I’m saying is that if you have someone badgering you that you need to get a reading from them or bad things will happen or if you ask for a reading and they try to push other products onto you at the same time, that’s not a good sign.

If they promise you instant riches or fame if you work with them, use your common sense.  If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

In Summary, do your homework and background reading, find someone that aligns with your values and practices, trust your intuition, and don’t fall for scams.

And if you want to learn more about me and see if I’m the right reader for you you can view my About Me page, peruse my Code of Ethics, and if it feels right to you, consider Ordering a Reading.  I’d love to work with you to help you through whatever life has put in your path.

10 Questions

tarot-talkFrom Ethony, 10 questions every Tarot Reader should answer.

I love this exercise, and I’ve tackled some of them before in my learning of Tarot, but it never hurts to re-examine them as you grow as a reader.

I’d love to hear your answers, and I’d love to take your questions too!  What questions would you add to this and what else would you ask me?  Share your questions and thoughts in the comments!

1. Were you mentored, or were you self-taught?

It’s been a mix of both.  I’ve taken some courses and read some books.  But one of the IMG_0458clearest messages that I’ve gotten all through my studies is that I have to trust my intuition.

2. Are you a psychic or a Tarot reader?

I am a Tarot reader.  I think of myself as an intuitive reader, but I wouldn’t claim to be psychic.  I let the cards speak to me and share the messages that I get.  I like to invoke a deity or higher energy when I give a reading to ask that they help guide my ability so that I can offer the best advice possible to the person I’m reading for.

3. Are your predictions accurate, and is accuracy important to you?

In the majority of my tarot work I’ve dealt more with advice for situations and questions relating to what a querent needs to understand about a problem.  The feedback that I’ve gotten has been overwhelmingly positive.  The highest compliment that I hope for is that people found my reading useful and empowering.

4. Is there anything you can’t predict in a reading?

I don’t really read predictively.  I sort of thing that trying to read that way takes the agency away from my querent.  I can tell you what might happen based on the path you’re currently on, but the power always lies with you on your path.  I want a Tarot reading to empower you to take hold of the reigns of your life so that you’re directing it.  I aim to help you better understand yourself and your own power rather than trying to predict your future.

IMG_07025. Do you use only Tarot, or are you multi-disciplinary?

I use mostly Tarot decks, but I am very fond of oracle decks as well.  I’ve experimented a tiny bit with some runes and charm casting.  I also believe that there are signs out there around us if we can only remember to stop and look for them.

6. Is the message in the cards, or in your head?

I think that the cards help me to receive the messages that I pass on to the querent.  I think that Tarot reading can be a way to channel more divine or spiritual information if you take the time and space to open yourself to those things.  I’ve also just sat down with my cards to sort of talk myself through something, relying on the cards to help me change my perspective or to recognize something about a situation that I’ve been missing.

7. Are you a priest/ess or a fortune-teller?

I guess I haven’t really thought of myself as either one of these.  I feel like priest (or priestess) would be taking on too much authority (for myself, I’m not saying this for anyone else except me) that I don’t feel I hold yet.  At this point on my path, anyway.  And I feel like fortune-teller seems a little too gimmicky.  Again, I am speaking for myself.  If any of you embrace that label and want to share your thoughts with me, I would be honored to hear them.  I love to learn from my fellow readers.

8. Are you a fixer or a looker?

I think I’m probably more of a fixer.  I want to be helpful.  I want you to get something IMG_0568useful and empowering out of my reading.  I want it to bring you new information, to make you feel like you are better prepared to face the world.  That’s my goal.  To help.  So I think I would rather think of myself as a Helper.

9. Do you read for free, or for fee?

Yes.  😉  Okay, less cheekily, I have read for friends and family for free.  It depends on the situation.  If I am offering a reading, unasked for and unprompted, then I am offering a reading free of charge.  If someone seeks me out for a reading I would probably charge.  Right now I am lucky enough that I don’t have to depend on this for my livelihood.

10. Is there anything you won’t predict in a reading?

I won’t try to predict the actions or mindsets of other people.  Things like “Will they leave me?”, “Do they love me?”, “Where is X thing?”.  I’ve actually never tried a Lost Object reading, so I wouldn’t know if that would work well.  I won’t try to predict or read for something that I don’t think I could be helpful in.  It would be dishonest and that’s not what I’m about.

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